Self-Erasure: Mental Health Awareness Month

Ho, boy.

I’ll be honest, when people complimented my autism post with things like “this must have been so difficult for you to write!”, I didn’t understand what they meant.

My autism diagnosis and online reading about it was a positive experience for me. I finally had words and a way to explain how I felt and how I saw the world. Writing about it made me feel empowered and understood – so writing a post about the good side of autism was not difficult for me.

It was the same with the anxiety one. It was relatively easy to write. I am an anxious critter – anxiety and autism usually go hand in hand, so that made sense, right? No reason to call off the sunshine picnic!

Then I started writing this post and…

I now understand why people find it difficult to write about their mental health.

This piece of crap had me in tatters. I had to look at parts of myself that I have taught myself to subconsciously and consciously avoid. It made me feel like a wounded animal, and like a wounded animal – I wanted to cover up the painful parts and hide them from the world.

So enjoy this messy trip down I-don’t-even-know-where as I angst out about an impending event. In many ways quite possibly the worst imaginable event in any person’s life if they struggle with self-erasure.

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Why We Are Considering A Tiny House

If you are into things like house hacking and alternative living arrangements, there is a fair chance you might have heard about the tiny house movement. There is a whole little sub-group devoted to tiny house living online, and the pictures of their homes are to die for!

At least I think so.

But then again, maybe it’s easy to make your home look rad when you have photography skills like these and video crews like these. If you are Norwegian, there is also an excellent introductory article right here.

I will be honest with you, I just keep coveting tiny houses. Whenever a post about them turns up in my feed somewhere, I am inclined to give it a click – especially if there are pictures! I even went so far as to download a free tiny house building plan at one point.

It’s still there, sitting in one of my many folders.

But coveting and idyllic pictures aside. What are the nitty gritty details about tiny house living? Obviously we can’t answer all the questions we have with regards to tiny living without actually living in one. But we can do some due diligence and try to figure out if we could make it work for us.

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Anxiety: Opportunities Lost And What I Do About It

Sooo…

Apparentely, May is mental health awareness month. I didn’t know. In Norway, May is primarily just the month with lots of public holidays (but if you’re a student, that doesn’t matter as there are still exams).

So I thought I’d continue the trend started over at Bitches Get Riches and disclose even more about my brain-wiring. You already know about my autism, so here’s one that follows many autistic people as well: anxiety.

I certainly did not think I would be disclosing stuff like this when I started this blog half a year ago. But hey, radical honesty and all that, eh?

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Relying On Your Partner – One Target At A Time

I’ve come to a conclusion, you all. It’s a really shocking one:

I can’t do everything.

Whaaat, really???

Yup, really.

Even in this day and age where “everyone” can do what they set out to do, there are still only so many hours in a day.

This realisation emerged as I read Tanja’s post about staying engaged at work to get through the saving years, and then further solidified when I read a rant about people not being willing to put in the hard work and the long hours to get the results they said they wanted.

Can we, just for a moment, take a step back and stop romanticising burning the candle from both ends and working yourself to the point of a mental and physical breakdown?

Good, moving on.
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Your Money Or Your Life – 2018 Revision Review

Honestly, where do I even start with this book?

I had been wanting to read it every since I first heard Vicki Robin’s voice on the Mad Fientist Podcast. Immediately, I reacted to her idealism and environmental attitude, something which is deeply important to me, but which I often miss in the larger financial independence community.

She talked about how she was so secure at this point that she could take larger risks, giving back to her community and investing in clean energy projects. “What a woman!” I thought to myself, and it only took that one podcast for me to admire and look up to her.

Since then, I always look forward to whenever I see another podcast featuring Vicki Robin pop up in my feed. When I heard there was a new edition of Your Money Or Your Life coming out in 2018, I knew I had to have it.

So for this, there are no clever hacks or tips to access a book for free like I did with the Frugalwoods review. I simply turned on my kindle, found the book, hovered over the buy button for a few seconds, and then it was mine.

It stayed in my library for a week or two, waiting as I was to travel to Svalbard for work. I knew I would like to have something to read on the trip and in the evenings after work.

It is a self-help book, which is not a category I normally peruse, but it is written in such a way that it is still very much an enjoyable read.

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Svalbard And Ponderings On Universal Basic Income

I’ve been in Longyearbyen for a few days now, and it is an interesting city from almost any standpoint (at least my staindpoints). The thing that struck me the most after taking a short stroll through the city, is that parts of the community here could be used as a “stencil” for an idealised version of how universal basic income (UBI) might work.

I’ve previously written another post about UBI, and you can find it here:

To understand why, you need to understand where Longyearbyen and Svalbard started.

In the beginning, the primary settlements in Svalbard were mining communities. Svalbard has rich coal reserves, and the first settlements were hardworking people from different countries.

Over the years though, the primary “industry” has changed from mining to research, education in an Arctic setting and tourism. There is still mining activity, but nowhere near as much any more.

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My First Guest Post – Femme Frugality!

I am afraid I can only muster a short post today. I just arrived in Svalbard today to spend the next seven weeks attending an intensive course about organic pollutants. I have peeked at the schedule, and it will be taking no prisoners.

So instead, I will implore you to head over to my friend Femme’s excellent blog where I recently wrote my first ever guest post! Femme approached me after the quite popular Autism and Personal Finances post I wrote a few weeks back, and very kindly asked me if I wanted to write a post for her autism awareness month feature.

Initially, I didn’t quite know what to write, having written the autism post I had set out to write, but one of Femme’s suggestions about autism and disableism set me off, and off I went.

It is perhaps a little more raw and dark compared to some of the posts on this blog. I try my best to write in a lighthearted and cheerful tone, but some truths cannot be taken too lightly, or they will not come across as they should.

So please, head on over and read the post I wrote about my meeting with disableism and work. And while you’re there, please make sure you read some of her other amazing posts as well!

The Oppression Of Being Replaceable

There has been quite a few discussions in the personal finance sphere about privilege, poverty and money lately. One post about Poverty Tourism by Liz over at Chief Mom Officer in particular made me think about just how intrinsic privilege can be, and how difficult it can be to claw your way out of poverty.

It made me think about this post, which has been lying in my drafts folder for several months.

It was something that came to my mind around the time I changed from an underappreciated job to one where I was welcomed with open arms. The stark contrast from being treated like a very disposable commodity to one where my skills and education were needed was a pretty big shock to the system.

Not just that, but moving to a job where I felt safe in my ability to pay off bills and did not have to feel insecure about where the next shift was going to come from, meant that the higher paying job also made it possible for me to pick up hobbies like writing again.

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Frugality Is Sustainability

There is a strange trend that I keep observing in the intersection I occupy online between frugality/personal finance and sustainable, eco-friendly lifestyles.

At least in certain corners of the internet, some people seem more concerned with showing the world that they are eco-friendly by having certain things and looking a certain way.

But considering how over-consumption and over-population are the biggest contributors to the decimation of natural resources and climate change – there is just no way you can buy yourself a sustainable lifestyle through conventional consumerism.

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