A few weeks back, someone recommended the podcast Bad With Money to us here at Frugasaurus HQ, and I have been checking out the content. Having bought an electric bike, I suddenly have a lot less time to listen to podcasts on my commute, so I am building up quite the backlog!
But I was listening to the podcast, and one financial health psychologist mentioned a phrase I had never heard before:
Specifically that there are two types of money scripts in particular: Poor money scripts and rich money scripts. As I listened to him, I realised that some of the things I do in order to “trick” my mind are actually an attempt at working around ingrained poor money scripts.
If you grew up on the less affluent side of the tracks, changing your money scripts can be one of the most difficult things to undertake.
With Mr. E. letting the cat out of the bag, so to speak, there are ways in which we wish to gently integrate a bit of LGBTQA+ awareness into some of our posts.
We were dating for almost four years before we tied the knot, and although I had no previous boyfriend with which to compare Mr. E, there are some distinct differences that I notice in how Mr. E. and myself organize our household, as opposed to how some of our friends organize theirs.
Obviously, this is my personal experience with one trans man, my husband. There will be differences between people, so don’t expect to find all or some of these things I consider benefits in all or even some other trans men. Your mileage may vary, and different countries’ socialization will have a big impact as well.
So ye be warned. This is written from a privileged Norwegian perspective, where both paternal and maternal leave is mandatory, and no one looks at you funny for leaving the office at four to pick up your child at the kindergarten, be you a man or woman.
It has been almost two months since Mr. E./Frugasaurus finished his exams and dove headfirst into freelance work and writing full-time. Even with the wedding and everything surrounding that, it is quite amazing how much work he has been able to do.
Even during the very first month, there were enough projects from his company to make him pull in a paycheck that was able to cover not just some, but the entire share of his expenses, and more than his stipend was as a student. He doesn’t seem to take it in at all, but I am amazed at how smooth the transition has been. Even now in the second month, he is set to blow past that by a mile, easily earning him enough money to set aside for months when there are fewer projects.
On my side of the freelance spectra, my little Etsy shop it growing slowly, and I am trying to publish something at least once a week, maybe two.
Over the last year since starting this blog, we have both realised how important it is to our mental health that we earn an income separate from an employer and their paycheck, and why we consider this our version of insuring for life.
Short of a few instances where I wanted to shave off all my hair like a buddhist monk/nun, just to see what it would feel like, I have almost always had a thick, long head of hair.
Caring for this mane used to take quite a bit of time and not-insignificant amounts of shampoo and elbow grease, creating equally significant piles of empty plastic containers.
Well, no more.
All other mammals manage to keep their fur shiny and plush without the aid of copious amounts of chemicals. As did we, not 100 years ago.
What did we forget along the way?
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Publishing this one a bit early, but I truly don’t believe two more days are going to make any sort of dent in the report at this point.
At a measly 33% savings rate, but boy, oh boy, do I have some not-so-frugal confessions to make for this month!
But since nobody is perfect, I figure it is better to put it all out here. To remind people that it is the journey that matters, and that we are still headed for the same destination.
Behold, this month I/we spent almost 50% of my income on “various”!
Not only that, but this was the month that I got reimbursed for my work trip to Svalbard and a conference, landing me with no less than twice (!) as much money come payday as I would usually receive. You should have seen my reaction when I logged into my bank and saw more money than my checking account has ever been in possession of at any one point in the past!
So yeah, I made some big purchases, and paid off another big event, and I don’t even have the frugal decency to be ashamed of it.
All in cash, obviously!
We have written before about how Mr. E. and myself do not share finances. We both have different issues related to money, and brute force combining them would have led to conflict and stress.
But because we are also a household and we share expenses, the are instances where we value pooling our resources. Shopping for groceries comes to mind, and as Mr. E. is going to spend the next year working from home, writing and establishing himself as a freelancer, he will most likely be the one to do most of the grocery shopping while I’m in the office.
Previously, we have solved this by me paying a higher portion of the rent and him covering the grocery bill, but that turned out to be sub-optimal. We would eventually “forget” that this was the reason for my increased contribution, and I would contribute to the grocery bill as well. No big deal, but we have learned over our years together that we need visual reminders of things like that, or we will forget. Read More
If you’ve been a frugal monster for any considerable length of time, you might have experienced something along the lines of the following encounter:
Them “So, found any good restaurants lately?”
Me “To be honest, we only really go to restaurants when we have guests, so I wouldn’t know.”
Them – A look of utter astonishment and bewilderment, couldn’t possibly know how to continue the conversation.
I can’t count how many attempted conversations have just fizzed out and died when people ask me something and I relay that we don’t really know much about it, because we don’t spend much money on it.
“But you have to live a little!” is often the answer we get in return. Treat yourself, living life, letting your hair down.
The truth is, we are able to do all that and more, without spending precious investing power and future house funds (AKA money).
Because frugality is not depravity. Especially not if the alternative is buying more and thrashing the planet even faster.
The primary reason I went to Svalbard a few months ago, was to learn more about human-caused pollution and the methods with which we can analyse minuscule amounts of dangerous and often hormone disrupting compounds.
One of the added benefits of attending this course, were passionate lectures given by leading scientists in their field. Experts dealing with the detection of new and hitherto unknown or unacknowledged chemicals (though not new from a production or use perspective), experts in method development and experts in air science and air pollution.
It was especially the air pollution enthusiasts who gave particularly passionate presentations. They used current and sobering statistics and showed how they could use data to back-track emission and pinpoint not just the source, but also the total emission from their data.
On the very last day of the very last lecture, these passionate experts gave a talk about how we might work our way out of the problems we have created for ourselves, and one of the suggestions was the transition to a methanol economy.
… Or just a spike in the statistics?
I am still afraid of believing the numbers I see are going to last, but I’ll certainly be happy about them!
Welcome to my sidehustle log series. A real-time experiment in striving for financial independence online. I don’t know what the answer to this series will be any more than you do!
Other instalments the sidehustle log series can be found here:
- Sidehustle log 01: Beginnings
- Sidehustle log 02: Christmas market
- Sidehustle log 03: Launching Etsy
- Sidehustle Log 04: March Update And A Website
- Sidehustle Log 05: Going Digital
I know we are only halfway through July at this point, but boy am I excited!
For the last week, there has been a sale in the shop almost every day, and even though we are only half-way through July, FrugasaurusVault has already earned more than twice what it did in June!
How do you ask? Well, through the magical powers of… vacation.